I just had to laugh when I read this today:
"Troy" hunk Orlando Bloom has ended his three-year romance with actress Kate Bosworth because they were spending too much time apart, pals claim. The sexy 28-year-old has been dating the "Beyond The Sea" beauty since they met on the set of a Gap ad in 2002. Bloom allegedly separated from Bosworth after their recent holiday to Brazil, because their hectic filming schedules prevented them from having a stable relationship.
I can't speak for the "hectic" lives of movie stars, but I know that spending too much time apart is no reason for breaking up.
Geoff and I just went an entire month without seeing each other. We're about to go through another month apart, thanks to our "hectic schedules." It's not easy, but we do it. Orlando would probably tell me to break it off and go with someone local. This from the best-looking bad actor out there (next to Ben Affleck).
Ya know, if you love someone, the physical distance is always trumped by the emotional closeness in the relationship. And they're rich movie stars. Can't they afford cellphones? Flights across the pond for a quick weekend getaway on days off? At the very least, they could use a Webcam for quick chats between takes. If I had one, I'd hook it up to my computer and have hours of conversations with Geoff. Or just stare at him lovingly.
Come to think of it, that's not a bad idea. Amazon.com had this lovely item for sale at a good price. I'm going to see if Geoff would go for it.
Here's two comments posted on previous blog entries:
We know the other Geoff in SF and could not be happier for you both! We look forward to seeing how things workout locationally so you both can thrive. And we say, "liberate Target!".
We hope that when your union occurs, the church, at least The Episcopal Church, will have gotten over its fear, so that it can really welcome you with open arms and "shout it (your love) from the housetops"!
Bart (and Tony!)
Geoff says we won't have a probem getting married in the Episcopal Church. His bishop has already said it could happen in California.
And don't worry. If I have to call myself Jennifer in order to register at Target, so be it.
Hi, it's going on three years since my partner of almost ten years and I have been in a long distance relationship. She lives in Belen and I'm in New York. She felt obligated to return to NM because of her family business and my job keeps me in New York. The longer we are apart, the harder it gets. We use Sprint pcs because of the pcs to pcs minutes and exchange numerous emails but it's not the same as living together, as we did for the previous ten years.
At least you and your boyfriend are on the same Coast. I fly American for the miles and have racked up enough for the spur of the moment long weekend trip to Abq.
Best of luck to you and your lover.....
Yikes. I thought the Albuquerque-San Francsico distance was bad. I can't imagine Belen-New York.
Geoff has suggested that I apply for every frequent-flier program out there. I wouldn't use a free flight to see him in California; I would use it for a vacation with him in Europe. Probably Italy.
I got this e-mail this afternoon, from a guy named Gary:
"Congratulations on your engagement! I know it's not easy to sleep every night without the one you love.
I was in a long-distance relationship with my now-wife for five years while she was off getting her masters at Stanford.
I proposed to her two years before she came back to me in Albuquerque. I guess I wanted to be sure she would in fact return! The hardest thing for me was trying not to call her every hour just to hear her voice.
Emily, my wife, is standing here watching me type this. She says the hardest part for her was going out to the movies or a play by herself (before she made friends).
Well, we just wanted to say hi. You and Geoff sound like a great pair. If you're ever in Belen, drop by and say hi!"
Gary and Emily bring up a good point. If you're in a long-distance relationship -- heck, any relationship -- don't be afraid to call each other, just to say hi. It's the best remedy for a hard day. Geoff never minds when I call, and I always get giddy when he does the same.
Why are you still reading???!!!?? Pick up the phone!!!!
When Delta Airlines announced it was lowering its fares, a price war started.
You wanted to fly to Chicago? Quick weekend in Miami? A hundred dollars will get you there!
But if you wanted to go to San Francisco from Albuquerque, you're outta luck.
Since the Delta announcement, I've been scouring the Web, waiting for the day when a cheap flight to see my fiancé would appear. We originally planned my visit for the weekend of Feb. 11, which happens to be my birthday. Alas, the swim team I coach is having a meet that weekend, so the visit has been changed to the weekend before.
But Geoff and I worry that the trip will not go down in price. It's been about $280 ever since I checked Southwest , and when I visit my favorite flight site, Travelocity, the cheapest flight is $250 - unless I can travel on a Tuesday or Wednesday, when it's $200. Sorry, no can do.
On an impulse, Geoff and I tried to see if I could get a good flight out to see him for a quick visit this weekend. We investigated the cheap fares at United . There was a good fare to San Francisco, but sadly none of the flights will get me back home in time for work Monday morning. Back to square one -- which wasn't any better than the square I just left.
You know those bereavement fares you can get for flying to a funeral? I think airlines should have a "long-distance loves" fare. We'd provide proof of our different cities of residences and voila! a cheap fare is given to us, with their sympathies, of course, that such a great distance is keeping us apart.
Am I missing a great site somewhere? If you know of a place where a flight from Albuquerque to San Francisco (or Oakland) costs about $200 -- and can get me back before 10 a.m. Monday, please tell me about it.
This business about engagement rings costing the equivalent of two months' salary is a bunch of malarky. Who started this rumor? Miss Manners?
I know the ring Geoff gave me did not cost him what he makes in two months, though by the look of it I would swear it was a ring worth five figures. I know the cost of the ring because I am working on getting Geoff the exact same one.
When he gave me the ring on Christmas Day, I had no idea that he was expecting an engagement ring. I've never heard of any couple -- gay or straight -- giving each other engagement rings. But I suppose the times are a'changin'.
I have no problem giving Geoff an engagement ring. I just felt real stupid -- still do, actually -- that I didn't automatically think he was to get one as well. And to add fuel to the fire, others always ask, "So what kind of ring did you give Geoff?" when I tell them of the engagement.
Seriously, folks, I haven't been in a cave all my life (movie theaters don't count). When did couples start exchanging engagement rings? And where was I when this trend began? My boss insinuated that www.theknot.com was the place for engagement information. But nothing there said both partners get an engagement ring.
Oh, well. Off I go anyway across the World Wide Web to give my fiancé his ring. Geoff gave me the specifics of the engagement ring, which he bought at goldspeed.com for ridiculously great bargain -- three hundred dollars! Here's what it looks like. It's really a wedding band, but you can also make it an engagement ring if you want.
Geoff needs to get his finger sized before I can buy the ring. I've got the money squirreled away, and I've picked a good time to flash the goods to him.
Now somebody put me through to Miss Manners. We need to talk.
Carrie Seidman, one of the best writers here at The Trib, is working on a story about long-distance relationships. Unfortunately, she can't use the story of yours truly. But I want to help her anyway.
If you or your partner live in Albquerque and you are -- or were -- in a long-distance relationship, Carrie would love to talk to you. E-mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org or call her at 505-823-3673.
The story is running on Valentine's Day, so she needs to hear from you soon!